Secret Life of Fatties| Pt. 1

So we thought we'd break it down a little bit and be brutally honest. We've noticed that people talk allot about weight. Be they a supporter of the body confidence movement or not. But very few people highlight the very real everyday struggles .....So we did!!!! You're all welcome !!!

     

As always my dears! Just Be...Your Way xxx

Feeling my Femininity

 I didn't forget about you guys!!!! We've been sorting out our videos and I started a new job ( yey!!) but don't worry I'm back!!
So I went to a party. A private party no less.
But it wasn't like just a party and its pretty much taken me over a week to figure out what I actually wanted to say about it.
This party. It had a very specific entry requirement.
You had to be fat.
Oh yes people!
I attended Big Girls Paradise in London last Saturday where you either need to be fat or like fat to attend.
Straight off the bat lets just address the name. I don't think I've ever cringed so hard in my life. Big Girls Paradise just sounds so....cringe! I genuinely can't think of a better word. Why couldn't it be called something generic like; 'The Big little black dress' party? Or just; 'The Basement' or a whole host of any other names other than 'Big Girls Paradise'.

Not to mention!!
It wasn't a damn paradise!! There was genuinely a 10 -1 female to male ratio, and those are not great odds. I struck out. Once, and got passed over. To be honest it pretty much set the tone for the entire night.
From the outset I noticed things that were very different from an every day party, the first was the entrance fee. It was quite sad really. Now this isn't just because I'm broke right now and 15 quid is my weekly food shop. The reason behind the high entrance fee was to discourage people from coming to the party and making fun of the girls there. The fact that they even had to factor this into their planning is just very telling. No one should have to be worried that they're going to be made the butt ( see what I did there?)of someone joke just because they're trying to have fun.

The thing is, its a genuine concern. The party organiser was actually very smart for setting it up. And as someone who has had the piss taken out of her, on more than one occasion, I certainly appreciated it. However no one should have to worry that people are going to come into their party and insult their guests because they  happen to be bigger that other people. Its actually crazy!

But we live in a society that for some reason thinks, if you're over a size 16 you shouldn't be allowed to enjoy yourself. That you shouldn't feel comfortable enough to, you should always be wary of being "that fat drunk girl".

I'll have it be made known I might be a size 20 but I love to dance, and I can move my ass like nobody's business on the dance floor.

So, and here is my thing. I went to this club and I tore it up on the dance floor and genuinely felt amazing. I'd actually forgotten how much I freaking love to dance!! I love it ! Its such a rush! But why in the hell should I feel that the only way to be able to let my hair down is to go to a party aimed at fat girls? Why can't I feel I can do that at just a regular everyday club?

And the answer is simple.

Because I genuinely just don't feel comfortable. As I'm in the queue with all the girls in their skimpy dresses half my size and their sky high heels, and I'm covered from head to toe; because no one needs to be seeing my rolls shake all up close and personal in a club. I just don't feel I belong there. I don't feel like I can just hang my jacket up find me some old school R&B and drop it like its hot. Whereas at the other party I really could. I, for the first time in a very long time, felt completely at ease. I felt confident and sexy, I didn't feel that people were judging me for allowing my ass to bump into them. I could just be me and have fun and not sit at the table tapping my foot and wishing I felt comfortable enough to get up and dance.

One thing I will say. Going to the Big Girls Paradise made my confidence soar. I actually walked up to 3 men and just asked them to dance, without any fear of rejection or any worry his mates were gonna be joking around and making fun of him dancing with the fat girl. It was almost a transcendent experience. I felt alive, desirable and completely in control. The fact that I had to be in a club specifically aimed at fat girls to feel in control of my sexuality is the problem.

Since when did we start allowing society to dictate who we are as women. Or what we should look like to be women. I've never had anyone tell me "Justice you're too fat to be a woman" but I've been telling myself that I can't express my confidence in my womanhood because I'm fat. Society suggests it and we tell it to ourselves over and over again until we think: "Well I better keep my jacket on and just die of heat stroke in case my dress shows my rolls" or even "I want to cut my hair but I'll loose my femininity if I do so ill just leave it ".
The only thing I can say if f@"# these bloody standards! No-one has the damn right to tell me how to express my womanhood. No-one has the right to feel uncomfortable in my own skin because I don't fit their ideal woman. I'm who I bloody well want to be!

So flip off these idiots and tell those bell-ends to shove it. You want to be comfortable in who you are? Go be comfortable. You want to embrace your femininity? Wear that short skirt and get those boobs out! You want to go shake your cellulite on the dance floor you bloody well do it!! All you've got to do is Just Be.. Your Way xx

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