I write often about how unacceptable it is for people to assume they can have an opinion about my body - I try to endorse confidence and loving yourself for who you are.
But I think people feel this is only exclusive for bigger people . That only people who are considered curvier than they should be by societies standards should be encouraged to love themselves. That isn't the case.
Obviously there is still the need to break those stereotypes that society create for us, but more and more recently our plus size beauties are being encouraged to embrace their curves. Actors like; Rebel Wilson and Melissa McCarthy with her own clothing line. Models like Tess Holiday and Ashley Graham have paved the way for curvier women to feel as beautiful on the outside as they are on the inside.
However, something I noticed recently made me wonder. Are we leaving some people off the train to self- confidence?
I know a boy. He's not a friend and I don't know him that well. I do know that he is very thin. And I don't mean the kind of thin that looks like a model ,I mean very very thin. He was told by his new girlfriend that, she didn't really date people that thin normally and it kind of put her off. She then proceeded to encourage him to put on weight to the point where he was eating twice the amount he normally would and of course gaining pounds.
Now don't get me wrong if someone wants to put on or loose weight that is completely their prerogative- if someone is unhealthily thin or fat to the point that medical intervention is necessary then they need all the encouragement they can to get healthy.
My question is how is that scenario any different to a man dating an overweight woman and telling her she was a bit too fat for what he normally finds attractive, to the point when she begins to loose weight to please him.
I personally don't see one. There is absolutely no difference in those two scenarios. To tell someone that you'll be with them but that they don't fit your usual standard of beauty and then to encourage then to change themselves, to please you, is just fundamentally wrong.
The thing is his girlfriend does like him allot, and does care about him and in her mind she's doing what she thinks is best. And maybe he is unhealthily thin and needs to gain weight. But that isn't the point.
The point is that every single person, no matter what they look like, should feel accepted for who they are. They should feel like they don't have to change themselves for anyone. They should feel beautiful in the body they were born with, or the body they choose to have.
So lets all be determined to encourage every single person we meet, whether they're fat , thin, tall, short or just a different ethnicity to ourselves that they're beautiful they way they are, they're worthy the way they are and that at the end of the day all you really need is to Just Be... Your Way xx
