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Tits Don't Count on a Fat Girl

So I was shown this little nugget of joy the other day and found it so ridiculous and disgusting I had to write an article about it !!

Body confidence has only been a legitimate campaign in recent years, with activists and bloggers paving the way to show that different is still beautiful. Admittedly we have a long way to go before every single person is accepted for who they are, but we've made huge strides since a few years ago.

One thing I have noticed is that most of the body confidence boosts are aimed towards women. Now in allot of ways this does made sense, if only because society and media seems to be particularly critical of the fairer sex. 

However more and more recently I've noticed just how much pressure men are under to have a perfect body. Now I'm sure that this pressure hasn't only just started, but for me personally I've only noticed it in the last few months.

Now. Don't get me wrong I'm not complaining about Charlie Hunnam or Brock O'hurn and all that sexiness, but the problem I've noticed is that boys and men see that and think that kind of body is normal , that having those kind of muscles are normal. And it really isn't . The majority of people aren't 6"7ish with hair like a Greek god and arms like bloody Thor ( that's Brock.... yum), And they shouldn't feel they need to look like that!

Not to say if a man genuinely enjoys working out, wants to get some muscles to boost his self esteem and that is going to make him happy, then he cant do that . I'm talking about the men who are pressured into going to the gym from their friends because they're thin , or forced and shamed into running miles on a treadmill because they're fat. If a guy is skinny or large and perfectly happy with themselves the way they are, then they should be allowed to just be them!!

Telling a man that his abs don't count because he's skinny and didn't get them in the gym is so ludicrous, I don't think I really need to expand on explain how stupid that is to be perfectly honest.

And I truly can't even say the amount of times I've been told that my boobs don't count because I'm fat so they're not real boobs they're just fat. Firstly. I assure you , They're real. Not to mention they were there before I was fat. Secondly boobs are made out of tissue and... you guessed it ... fat!!!

 Its like telling someone that the clothes they're wearing - while nice - don't count because they're not on a model. Or that the new alloys on their car doesn't count because the car isn't new. Its mental!!!

My message is basically this. These kind of memes and jokes are just not funny. They tell people that who they are is not acceptable unless it fits their standards. That who they are and the body they have isn't worth anything unless it was gained a certain way. No- one has any right to have that kind of ownership over another persons body! And even if you don't create these jokes, liking them on Facebook or laughing about them makes you just as bad as the people who did.

So if you have abs but a fat as, or boobs and a big belly or yes abs but no muscle anywhere else on your body; just hold your middle fingers up with pride and give a big fuck you to the haters, because its not your tits that don't count, its their opinions.  If YOU are happy then who cares what they think? Flash your boobs and flash your abs and Just be...Your way xx